[A species of Plumbago in my garden]
Yesterday I was asked to think about why I am so invested in feeling to blame for other people's problems/behaviors/issues …
The revelation about the why comes as I am twisting into yoga postures or sitting silently in meditation.
So here goes – perhaps:
If I am to blame –
If I think it is all about me -
Then I have the illusion that I can change it – [if it is about me, I can surely work at fixing me – there is something I can and must do about it]
An illusion that I am in control in a helpless situation – [I think I was taught that something must and can always be done to fix it]
The discomfort is in the holding still – [in doing nothing – not reacting, not fixing me/it]
Accepting that –
It is not about me –
There is absolutely nothing -
I can do about changing them.